Each time, these men—dashing chefs, moody architects—would give me just enough attention to keep me in their narcissistic orbit.
I thought our fling was the start of a relationship; he thought it was a fling, period. I would fall for a brilliant guy with an irresistible smile who never quite fell for me but who possessed all the qualities I liked in a man: a sense of humor, certified smarts, smoldering looks.
Family Ties Experts say we develop our taste in men at a young age — anywhere from childhood to adolescence.
"Whether it's positive or negative, everyone has a relationship pattern based on what they learned about love when they were growing up," says Alon Gratch, Ph D, author of If Love Could Think.
Most women are not stupid, gullible, dumb, or any other name critics choose to call them for the selections in men they make.
For some, they truly had no idea their boyfriend meant bad news for them.