By understanding what is involved in living with a recovering alcoholic or drug addict, you can be better prepared to assist with recovery and offer support to decrease the chance of relapse.If you've lived with a drug addict or alcoholic, you know that addiction doesn't just affect the addict - it affects friends and family as well. Because recovery is a lifelong process, your loved one won't be "cured" once he or she comes back from treatment.Mathis was 19 when he was discovered by jazz producer George Avakian who immediately sent a telegram to Columbia Records stating: "Have found phenomenal 19-year-old boy who could go all the way. So when he said he liked to hear me sing, that really pleased me.Send blank contracts."By 21 Mathis had three hits under his belt, including the No 1 Chances Are and at 23 he released Johnny's Greatest Hits, which would stay in the charts for 490 weeks. For me hearing my voice is sometimes a little nauseating, especially at Christmas." Mathis has released eight Christmas albums and his single When A Child Is Born has been a hardy Christmas perennial ever since it went to No 1 in 1976.There was simply a phone call from a receptionist: Dropped from care. It's upholding my promise to love him through sickness — except this particular sickness is one of denial, deception, and manipulation. It's mentally preparing his funeral and how I'll explain his death to our son.So he went to the streets, which is where so many addicts go when their prescription is yanked from their hands. It's searching the self-help bookshelves for some kind of insight or support, wondering why no one saw the "strong" wife quickly deteriorating. It's finally reaching out to a few close friends, then his family, and feeling a cathartic release.Not the same man who held my sobbing body as a positive pregnancy test sat on our bathroom sink, six years ago. The doctor didn't ask if he had a deeper pain, an emotional pain that this prescription might temporarily patch. He's not a drug addict; he's a good man suffering through an addiction. The consecutive ATM withdrawals and sneaky deception.
This disease touches everyone, gays, straights, men and women, and each and every one of us who has known that trauma and pain deserves to be heard. Previously I did not allow men to share or comment on this website because I wanted a private venue for women, like myself, to find support and resources. Recently I have received so many e-mails from men who have discovered that their wives or partners are Sex Addicts.This includes: Here are 5 ways family members can support their loved one in drug or alcohol recovery.They include common problems family members encounter while living with a recovering addict and what actions you can take to address them.