It is not the first time that I have come across the attitude that career women deserve to be alone if they don’t want to date men without any education, or men a generation older, or the obese. Alas, men don’t care if you’re taller, richer, smarter, or funnier. Which is why men can date ANYONE – regardless of education, income, and height – while many women can only date 1 in 1000 men who are 6 feet tall, with a masters degree and a 0,000 income.
I am just wondering how many men really think like this. So are some men unrealistic in thinking that they deserve a chance with you? Are they also correct in pointing out that they are open to a lot more women than you are open to men, and this may hinder your ability to find lasting love? To your original question, no one is saying (apart from the jilted men) that you deserve to be alone.
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My rule of thumb: I do not judge, And the person always gets a chance.
I grew up upper middle/lower upper class, but I honestly don't care about a woman's socioeconomic level, occupation, or educational background when deciding whether or not to spend time with her or even date her.
For me, all that matters is whether or not there's an attraction, both physically and mentally.
In fiction, cross-class relationships either end in marriage and happily-ever-after, or else in dissolution and even death. Last year, I set out to answer this question by interviewing college-educated men and women who had married partners from different class backgrounds, for my book Most of the time, couples’ recognition of their different pasts was acknowledged in little more than a comment about their father’s job or a lavish family vacation.
"Middle class women are more likely to be financially independent and better educated, their needs are different.
They want intimacy and shared experience with an equal rather than to be swept off their feet, Jane Austen style," explained Biderman.
I am just wondering how many other men think like this?
For me, it seems plain common sense that, while professional women with masters degrees may be compatible with men in less successful professions, the guy that left school with no qualifications to work in the launderette is highly unlikely to be a good fit.