I get so many emails asking me about whether to date someone who is separated, recently divorced, or even fresh out of a breakup that I wanted to tackle this tricky subject.We’re often scared (even if nothing has actually happened yet with a particular person) that we may be letting our last chance or even best chance saloon slip away.grief, angry exes, hurting children, financial problems).If he’s recently divorced, be cautious, take things slow, and make sure you get your needs met before getting too involved.Questions to ask yourself: What are you waiting for? Why are you allowing his negativity to bring you down?Do you feel sorry for him and want to “fix” his life? He tells you to wear his favorite color or certain types of clothing when going out on a date (or he buys you clothes to wear.) He tells you how and when to do everything.Chances are you will meet some wonderful – and not so wonderful – men during your journey. He admits to having several children with various women. (especially if there are young children involved.) Dating Red Flag #5 – Where Does He Live?Your responsibility is to know exactly what you want in a man and to keep your eyes open for potential red flags. He spends money frivolously and likes to flash wads of money. You have been dating for a month or two and he has yet to articulate what he does for a living. Questions to ask yourself: Were the mama’s pregnant at the same time? You just find out the man you have been dating is living with his mom or in his sister’s basement.
While it’s difficult to assign arbitrary dates for when it’s okay for a divorced man to begin dating, those who haven’t been divorced at least six months are often still dealing with divorce fallout (e.g.Dating divorced women can be tricky because many have been wounded and guarded.Knowing what she might be thinking will give you an advantage when you make the big ask. She’s been put to the test: Emotionally, physically and financially, she has been tested.What you have to keep in mind is that separated is still married until the divorce is finalised and that means that there’s likely to be emotional as well as legal ties.It would be handy if we could avoid the vulnerability that comes with doing the due diligence and taking appropriate action where needed.