Even as a Chinese American, she still has limited interaction with Chinese students. "Maybe they still feel: 'I am different, even though my Mandarin is not bad'. Chinese students are shy, but in the United States, if you don't speak out, we won't help you." Dating culture in the US is different from China, said Zhao Qinghua, founder of 2Red Beans, a dating website for Chinese living in the US."Dating withmultiple men/women concurrently is unacceptable," Zhao said.Sure some may work out, hit the weights and look strong but they lament that women do judge a book by its cover.In essence, they find this world of online dating extremely limiting because of the limits placed on them by America's standard of beauty.I have had very serious relationships with several Asian men that eventually led to the marriage to my current Chinese husband. Blows that rumor that they don’t date Black women out of the water doesn’t it? for you ladies interested in dating Asian men or Chinese in particular; you need to know there is a big difference between ABC men ) ….. They are very strong on tradition of taking care of family and parents. Now before I get started I want to let everyone know that I am Black American and I am currently living in China. I didn’t make up these names they are created by the Chinese folks themselves. They think like you, they dress like you, they have the same stereotypes as you. They usually prefer their women to not go out a lot to the bars, and to stay home and keep a good house for them while they bring home the money for the family. and if you don’t like to have a man pay for your dinner and buy you things…. And now with the proliferation of online dating apps and websites, it can be even more daunting.
Absolutely great message that deeply reaches Asian Americans, though could also have a deeper meaning for immigrants all kinds, especially immigrants of color moving to a white-majority country, or just persons of color in general.Women who have no Asian male friends or interactions are limited to societal and media portrayal of Asian men which isn't flattering.Remember, it was just January of this year when comedian Steve Harvey joked about how no one would want to date Asian men."There's very little 'dating around' in the Chinese community." Chinese men also often "do not know how to express themselves or open up to show how amazing they are, especially on the first date," Zhao added. " said Lina Mei, a jewelry dealer and a community activist in Flushing, Queens, who has held more than 30 monthly dating parties for local Chinese."This leads to the impression that they are less interesting people when you first meet them." 2Red Beans also finds US citizens and green card holders are more popular than aliens, a sign that Chinese living in the US want stability, something Chinese have to worry about when dating in the US. "In many cases, people start dating after my event, then one of them goes back to China, and the relationship is done," she said.