I don’t have kids, but I want kids, so if she already has one or two, it would be a bonus.
I would just be really cautious about getting close to the kid, because if it didn’t work out, I’d feel bad if the kid got attached, then hurt.” “I think it would be a pain.
They are very proud of me and I’m going to be quite frank with you, my sisters and my friends at this point are like,“You’re crazy if you have kids, you have this wonderful life.”But, whatever works for me is going to work for me.
Today as I listen to single women tell their stories about dating divorced men, I remember my experience well.After looking it over for about fifteen minutes, Beth returned the report to my desk and told me I was a male chauvinist. I was fond of Beth and trying to help her, so after I recovered, I asked her what made her think that.She said, “You reinforce the myth that the reason men don’t commit is that the women in their lives do something wrong. In most cases, it’s the man in a relationship who decides he isn’t ready or doesn’t want to get married, and he makes this decision without any help from the woman." After telling Beth that more than three hundred women had worked with me on the marriage research and not one had made the comment she just offered, I apologized. My interviews with single men had shown there were men who would not commit.I do get a lot of offers, a lot of dates, but they’re not the right person for me. I’m at the point now where I tried so hard to plan growing up and plan this dream life…I’m done planning.So if I don’t ever have children, I will be okay with that. At first, I thought having children had to define me, like I was going to be empty if I didn’t, or judged if I didn’t.