I know a 20-something couple who started therapy before graduating from college (and ended up in grad school intact). You’ve met with your therapist once a week for a year or more.A boundary in counseling is much like a boundary on a piece of land. It’s a line that says where the relationship begins and ends.
These days, when therapy in general often functions as a short-term tool for specific problems and notions of romantic commitment are increasingly bipolar — pseudo-marriage growing while real marriage happens later and less often — premarital counseling is increasingly popular in the lead-up to a wedding, and so is counseling that starts before marriage is on the table.
Lucy Beresford is a writer, broadcaster and psychotherapist I host LBC Radio’s Sex & Relationships phone-in show, review the newspapers on Sky News, I am an Agony Aunt on ITV’s This Morning and blog for Huffington Post UK Lifestyle.
I was shortlisted for ‘Dating Expert of the Year 2015′ by UK Dating Awards.
The therapeutic relationship is different by design.
It’s an important difference in that professional boundaries are in place and should remain that way.