There’s an old joke in recovery circles that goes: how do you know when a date between two sober alcoholics has gone well?
Punch line: They move in together before it's over.
It is recommended that people who are still within the first year of their recovery should avoid beginning romantic relationships.
“If you’re talking about someone with good sobriety dating someone who is a casual or responsible drinker, there isn’t necessarily a problem,” she says.
When people become sober it opens up a world of possibility.
They can now begin to rebuild their life and get back many of the things they have lost.
“If the sober person is in early recovery or if the drinker is a problem drinker, the chances for a good dating experience are dim.
Though most people won’t wait two years into sobriety to start dating, keep in mind that the smell of alcohol, the taste of a kiss [with someone who’s been drinking], the clinking of ice in the glass, as well as the bar and the bar scene could be triggers.”Irene Carroll, a North Carolina–based addiction therapist, says, “Dating is just so risky for people in early in recovery, especially so if you’re considering going out with someone who isn’t sober. ” Naturally, when going out with someone who drinks, sober people often wonder when and how to reveal the fact that they don’t drink.