Due to negative experiences and beliefs (or sometimes a personality disorder), both sexes can suffer from commitment phobia.But more and more men seem to be suffering from this problem.Therefore: Being responsive to your partner is wildly important to a successful relationship — both emotionally and in the bedroom — but is it attractive from the get-go?At least for women, the answer seems to be a resounding “no.” The study paired up men and women with a “responsive” and “non-responsive” partner and had them interact (you know, like a first date). However, it is also common knowledge that a lot of people go through a stage in their life where they keep finding themselves attracted to assholes (note that I use this term equally for men and women). Well, thanks to studies conducted by social psychologists from the Interdisciplinary Center Herzliya, the University of Rochester, and the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, we finally have some insight as to why the heck this is such a common problem, especially for straight women.
the bigger of an asshat they were), the more attractive women found them.Last night, I was at a business networking mixer here in Los Angeles.As the event winded down, I was talking to these two lovely young ladies — let’s call them Ashley and Sarah — who seemed really preoccupied about a message Ashley was composing on her Blackberry.After the interaction, the participants were asked to rate how masculine or feminine they perceived their partner to be, followed by how sexually attracted to them they were. Men rated their responsive female partners as more feminine and therefore more attractive.Women, however, did not find their responsive partners particularly masculine or feminine – and worse yet, being responsive was marginally but negatively associated with how attractive they found their male partner.