[Read: Best places to go on a first date] The rule of the sexes If you’re the guy, be chivalrous and charming. Men love it when they feel like they’re in control of the situation.
Sometimes horror stories about them can make for fun discussion, but don't ever bring your ex into the conversation if it's not called for.
I want to show you how to get better at dating, quickly and efficiently, while avoiding all the mistakes I made. Guys run into this all the time; we’re taught over and over again that to be a man means to want to fuck everything even vaguely hot that walks into our eyeline.
If you’re in the PUA community, this narrative is reinforced ; you’re supposed to want a harem of the hottest girls you can find, because railing chicks is alpha, bro.
Settling down is often seen as a loser’s game, getting “trapped” or “giving up”, with all the attendant jokes about eating the same meal over and over again or being restricted to just one flavor (vanilla, natch) of ice cream.
Other people have a hard time with accepting that perhaps they’re just not capable of being monogamous, or simply don’t want to follow the cultural narrative of settling down with one person and having the requisite 2.5 kids and the white picket fence.