Nor are we necessarily going to be open to all the positions and, uh, of porn stars (although I'm guessing few of us would turn away, say, a Brad Pitt-George Clooney threesome; I sure wouldn't).Polls show that we're pretty evenly divided on whether porn is just part of the package when it comes to men and if it's demeaning to women.Step 1: Let’s say I were to visit a prostitute and have sex with her. Let’s say I masturbated during the chat session while using the video image as the source of my fantasy. Has the lack of physical proximity suddenly changed the situation that it is no longer breaking my marriage vow? Step 4: Now let’s say that instead of engaging in the video chat live, the prostitute recorded herself for me so I could masturbate at my convenience. Am I now suddenly remaining faithful to my marriage vows because someone hit the record button? I can hear the screeching of mental breaks right about now. Something major has shifted between the first scenario and the last. If this was the way our culture understood porn, it might be one thing.
In a recent ruling, , a lower court judge in North Carolina has decided that enough is enough.By “cheating” I mean that using porn is breaking a vow—either implicitly or explicitly—made to one’s spouse. Both in this case and in the previous case I am seeking the services of a prostituted woman for sexual pleasure—seeking out and enjoying the body of a woman who is not my wife in order to be sexually gratified. The pretense of no physical contact doesn’t matter because the action still violates the spirit of the sexual exclusivity. Let’s say I reach out to this prostitute and pay her to view her recorded videos which she gladly sells me. Does the change in title and the veneer of professionalism change the nature of the act? Step 6: Now let’s say that this entire enterprise is industrialized so that this woman is part of a large network of other prostitutes who are doing the same thing.This is because marriage is, in part, about sexual exclusivity; it is about “forsaking all others.” Take some steps with me down a morally slippery slope. Step 2: However, let’s say that when I met with the prostitute : I just watched her have sex with someone else while I masturbated in the same room. Could a man rightly say, “Yes, I pleasured myself in front of a hooker, but we didn’t touch each other. Step 3: However, let’s say I didn’t visit the prostitute in person but only interacted with her through erotic video chat. Step 5: Now let’s say the prostitute has a business card with a fancy title on it: “Pornographic Actress.” She even has a website with a resume listing of all the films she’s been in. Much like walking into a brothel, I can pick the woman I want when I want, pay my fee, and enjoy her body for my lustful purposes. What about the industrialized nature of the product changes the nature of the act? And on this last step we have arrived at what the modern porn industry is. It is engagement with a digital prostitute despite one’s vow to forsake all others.He may have been the world's most wanted terrorist at the time he was killed, but it turns out Osama bin Laden was also a typical man. he was evidently living with -- approved of it or even knew. Perhaps they may have watched with him although that's doubtful; although more women are watching online porn than ever -- some 13 million American women were checking it out at least once each month in the first three months of 2007 -- they have yet to come close to guys.Evidently, bin Laden had an "extensive" stash of porn at his compound in Abbottabad, Pakistan, according to officials. Women tend to favor cybersex chat rooms -- we like to talk -- while men go for the visuals.