Yet many of us, wanting to please someone with whom we are in a close relationship — or with whom we may hope to be — forget to follow this advice and end up in relationships that are less than fulfilling.
We have family dinners together — all six of us — and Abby cooks. The two confessional authors also share a connection in a woman so inspirational that her name has become shorthand for a spirituality of its own: Oprah Winfrey.
But in the meantime, accept and appreciate who you are now. If you’re content with who you are, you needn’t quantify your good aspects because they will emerge naturally. Also for your smile, insights, conversation, companionship, ideas, sense of humor, calmness or vibrancy, ability to listen and respond sensitively to another.
Knowing who you are also means being aware of your feelings. By being yourself, you are giving whoever you are with a unique and wonderful gift. If not, that’s fine too because you’ll realize that the two of you are not a good fit for a lasting, satisfying relationship and you can move on promptly.
And they went looking for a wife, not a girlfriend.
We could all learn a thing or two from the men of the “greatest generation,” especially the importance of dating intentionally.