Mark your wife's birthday, your wedding anniversary, and Mother's Day on your calendar every year and plan to make those days special.
Take twenty minutes several nights a week to read, discuss, and pray through a shorter book such as Ephesians or Philippians.
While these things seem like common sense, it’s easy to forget basic manners the second pre-date jitters enter the fold.
Now that that’s out of the way, it’s time to start planning!
Make sure it’s you, and not your friends’, mentors’ or family’s opinions that are being relayed.
From my experience with a wide variety of my clients, “waiting” will not lead you to your other half. When you tell people what you’re looking for, is that you talking?
Devote one hour each night for alone time with your wife.
And surprisingly, many clients have married people they already knew. It’s your ideal dating timeline, what your process would look like if you ran the world for a moment. Supposing you meet your soul mate on that date, when would you like to get engaged? But when your willpower isn't enough to get you married, it's time to combine your willpower with your WHYpower. I’m sure you know that the statistics on long term relationships aren’t terribly favorable and that the divorce rate is high. If you value your safety, tapping into that value can bring your foot off the gas pedal even when you’re in a real hurry.
When you are confident you won't be marrying anyone you already know, then proceed to looking into other options. And after that milestone, how long would you like it to be before your wedding day? So the trick to getting married and staying married is to first engage your will, then activate your why.
Spend an evening stargazing with your wife and talking about dreams you have for the future. Spend an evening reminiscing with your wife about all you've been through together and all God has done and redeemed in your life together. Devote the next month to studying a book of the Bible with your wife. Visit where your wife grew up and where you grew up.
Hold your wife's hand often, in public and in private.