That realization was the starting point which will have you seriously reconsidering your approach to relationships. A central theme in your book is that the culture of dating teaches women to conceal their real desires in order to not scare men off.What does the history of dating—and, in particular, how it’s been sold to women—reveal about that theme?
Juggling her and his ex, he couldn’t decide what (or who) he wanted.
Women my age are like, 'Oh, wow, I think that'd be really refreshing and be really thoughtful and I'd really appreciate it.' And we asked younger women, 'What if a guy called you? There's a story I tell in the book, how at my one-year anniversary, my girlfriend gave me this book that like had all of the text messages we had ever sent to each other.
' They were like, 'Uhhh, I don't know what I'd say! And in some of the beginning ones she made little notes about what was going on in her head and stuff, saying, like 'Oh, I was really nervous here, because I said this and I thought it had offended you,' and I was like, 'wow, that's so funny, because I remember sending the message afterwards and being really nervous about it.' And you end up realizing you're so worried about this, and the other person is probably worried as well.
If you're flowing with it and cool, we've got a winner.
If you seem offended by it, that's as far as we go." —Steve M."Girls should try to avoid pre-judging before a first date.